It Gets So Much Fucking Better

“Before you echo 'Amen' in your home or place of worship, think and remember...a child is listening.” 

Mary Griffith

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An open letter to my audience

 

Guys, I love youtube. In fact, the idea of youtube going away wants me want to sob uncontrollably.

 

I have a long list of favourite youtubers who I watch and look up to. One of them is Tyler Oakley. For those of you who don’t know who Tyler Oakley is, he’s best described as youtube megastar//personality. He makes random challenge videos with a group of what I like to call ‘The Dream Team’ of youtubers. He also makes vlogs and talks about pop culture. He’s the host of a podcast named Psychobabble and he’s got a movie and book in which he talks about his journey from being an awkward teenager, to someone who is all about spreading a message of love and acceptance.

 

It’s this message I want to talk about with my audience. You’re all so lovely and your kindness and support and love of my work keeps motivated to do my best work.

 

I used to always think that I’d only find acceptance once I became successful in life and that my success would force people to love me. That’s not the case. For anyone. You deserve it now. At this point in your life and always.

 

By the way guys I'm completely aware of how 'Self-Help' I'm sounding, but this is an important message so please read on.

 

This message is for all of you, but it is especially for young LGBT people who may feel at risk. I’ve lived on youtube in one way or another for a very long time. A couple years ago a massive campaign ran across social media called ‘It Gets Better’

 

The campaign encouraged everyone within the LGBT community and allies of the community to tell their stories and re-enforce the idea that even though you may experience a really tough time in your life it truly does get better. I’m proof of that.

 

There was a very dark time in my life about 4 years ago when I struggled with my sexuality and I considered ending my life because I felt this intense pressure to be who everyone else thought I should be. I didn't feel like I would be accepted, by God, and especialy by my family.

 

If there's one thing I can teach you guys from my experience it’s to LIVE YOUR TRUTH.

 

Be who you are, and who you want to be.

 

Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind

 

This doesn't just apply to the LGBT community. It applies to all genders, races and every other group in our worldly society. Why should women be vilified if they choose to be sexually active outside of marriage or choose to wear make up? Why should boys be given trucks to play with if they like playing with their sisters Barbie? Who in society dictates what is normal? Nobody. You should do what makes you happy as long as it’s safe and respectful toward others, and more importantly to yourself.

 

As disgustingly cliche as this sounds, you only get one go at this life. Live it adventurously and free of other peoples expectations. Break through the barriers of what everyone else thinks is normal and do what makes you happy. There are so many people who did what everyone (at the time) didnt think was normal. And they copped a lot of shit for it. "Ahead of their time'. I'm not telling you you should discover an advance alien race and then walk around public completely naked because society says we should wear clothes and you want to rebbel againts society. You should live YOUR truth.

 

Even if there's a time in you're life where you feel like living your truth isn't an option and that those around you won't accept you for who you really are inside, just keep in mind that things will get better. Things might seem like theyre really bad, and that you'll never be happy, but life gets so much fucking better beyond this point.

 

My advice to young LGBT people: if you're finding it difficult to come out and be yourself because you're living at home and you think coming out may go sour, do so when it's safe. Look after yourself. Things may seem really bad right now but one day you'll move out of home and things will be much better. The thought may have even (sadly) crossed your mind that your family won't accept you or love you anymore, and that they'll throw you out.

 

Pick the right time. You'll be truly surprised at how often parents already know their kids are gay. They often know before you do and they've raised you and loved you regardless. 

 

It may be tense in the beginning and you may feel like you've disappointed them, but keep in mind, they had certain expectations for you in life. And those expectations have been crushed, and they have to re-evaluate how they can guide you in life moving forward.

 

It's also important to remember you've had your whole life to accept yourself. They might need a little time to adjust.

 

At the end of the day everyone is human. We all deserve compassion and respect. Gay, straight transgendered, bisexual, black, white, woman, man or how every you choose to identify. It doesn't matter. We all have something incredibly important  to offer each other in life and contribute.

 

Some of the most famous people who have contributed to society were part of the LGBT community, women, people of colour etc. All you have to do is look back at the way 'humanity' treated specific groups throughout history to realise how very fucking wrong it was, and how we've changed our ways.

 

You deserve to be treated respectfully and you shouldn't settle for an environment that makes you feel like there's something wrong with you.

 

There are a lot of places you can go to for support within the LGBT community. Your school councillor, local health centre, your friends, teachers, and there's a large community that lives online that are there to support you.

 

YouTube is one of these places. You can jump on Youtube right now and type in 'coming out stories' and watch people tell their stories. There may be something there you can relate to. It's also helpful to listen to people talk about how they felt the world was falling around them until they came out and everything got better.

 

I can say that my life improved a lot after I came out to my mum. I've never been so happy in my life.

 

Allies of the LGBT community. If you're straight and supportive of the LGBT community, make it known. Don't be afraid. Often times gay people who are in the closet stay in the closet because they feel unsafe. You should make it known you're an ally. if you hear someone say something that's a little off about the LGBT community, SPEAK UP! It's not ok. Words end lives! You can help change attitudes!

 

Live your truth.

Nick xo

Mary Griffith and her son Bobby Griffith

“If no one had ever challenged religious authority, there’d be no democracy, no public schools, women’s rights, improvements to science and medicine, evolution of slavery and no laws against child abuse or spousal abuse. I was afraid to challenge my religious beliefs because that was the basis of creation—mine anyway. I was afraid to question the Bible or anything in it, and when I did, that’s when I became involved with PFLAG and realized that my son was a perfectly normal human being and there was nothing for God to heal because Bobby was perfect just the way he was.” 

 

“ I realize how depraved it was to instill false guilt in an innocent child's conscience, causing a distorted image of life, God, & self, leaving little if any feeling of personal worth.” 

 

“Before you echo 'Amen' in your home or place of worship, think and remember...a child is listening.” 

 

Mary Griffith

Prayers For Bobby 

Based on a true story. Devout Christian Mary Griffith fights to "cure" her gay son, Bobby. Although he tries to please his mother, Bobby cannot change his lifestyle, and his depression leads to suicide. Mary questions her faith and searches for comfort, but after the church is unable to help her cope with Bobby's death, she seeks to understand her opinions on homosexuality for herself. Eventually, Mary becomes an advocate for gay rights.

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